🕯️ Notes by Candlelight (and trying not to have a Midlife Spin-out Again 😎

A Midlife Check-In From Someone Who’s Also Sometimes Just Trying to Stay Upright 😵‍💫

Okay, full transparency—this email’s coming to you straight from my couch, candle burning, blanket on, hair in a claw clip, trying not to spiral… again.

Because lately, it feels like everything I used to tolerate suddenly makes me want to launch myself into the sun.

And it’s not even the physical midlife stuff. We already know about that circus.

I’m talking about theemotionalkind of exhaustion—when you wake up one day and realize:

“Wait a minute… how long have I been putting up with THIS?” 😳

The Matrix Glitched, and I’m Not Okay With It 🙃

It’s like someone swapped my operating system overnight.

Stuff that used to befine—the way people talk to me, the patterns I’ve played out for literal decades—

is now straight-up UNACCEPTABLE in all caps.

So now I’m over here trying to rewire a 25-year pattern while also not totally losing my mind in the process.

Because apparently, when you start changing the rules of a relationship that’s been running on the same script forever…

the other person doesn’t immediately go, “Oh, sure, let’s upgrade!” 😑

Nope. Instead it’s:

me = emotional tornado 🌪️

them = confused by new boundaries

body = “Ma’am… we are not buying your BS. You haven’t changed a thing yet.”

Anybody else? Please tell me it’s not just me spiraling every other week like clockwork 😅

Turns Out, the Mind Isn’t the Whole Story (Who Knew?)

I used to think I could mindset my way out of anything. For heaven sakes, I was a corporate leadership coach and made that my career.🧐

Affirmations, podcasts, team building strategies the whole “just think positive” schtick.

Except one day, it just stopped working.

Like… my brain was all “We’re good!” and my body was like, “Girl. No we’re not.”

I kept trying to reprogram my thoughts, but I hadn’t re-taught my body what safety and peace actually felt like.

👉🏻👉🏻Joe Dispenza says, “If you can’t think greater than how you feel, you’ll keep creating the same life.”

And ouch… that one was a BULLSEYE 🎯

If you want a new future, you’ve got toteachyour body what that future feels like, not just think about it.

So yeah. Back to the drawing board.

And honestly? I’ve been spinning out on and off ever since.

Because apparently transformation isn’t tidy. 🤷‍♀️

Where Human Design Entered … The Missing puzzle 🧩 Piece

When I stumbled into Human Design, I wasn’t looking for another personality test.

I was looking for a lifeline—something that could explain why I kept praying for change but reacting the same way.

Faith has always been my compass, but somewhere along the line, I’d lost the signal.

(Human Design gave me a way to hear 👂 it again).

It showed me that God had been speaking the whole time—I just didn’t know the language.

It’s called your Authority, and it’s basically your body’s built-in “truth detector.”

The way you personally hear the divine nudge that says “this way, not that one.”

Here’s the quick cheat sheet (and I swear one of these will blow your mind 👇):

• Sacral Authority – Gut says yes/no immediately. Ignore it and regret it later.

•Emotional Authority– You need time to ride the wave. Don’t decide mid-storm.

•Splenic Authority– Your intuition whispers once. Blink and you’ll miss it.

•Ego Authority– If you don’t genuinely want it, it’s not for you. Period.

•Self-Projected Authority– You hear your truth when you say it out loud.

•Environmental / Lunar Authority– You need time, cycles, and calm energy to sense what’s real.

Once I learned mine, I stopped thinking God wasn’t listening—

I realizedI just wasn’t recognizing His voice.

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SO…. I CREATED WHAT I NEEDED…

Because I couldn’t find it anywhere.

I didn’t want another fluffy workbook or some “you’re so high-vibe” nonsense.

I wanted something forreal women in real life,trying to evolve without losing their minds.

So I made what I desperately needed:

aHuman Design Guidethat explains your blueprint in normal-person English,

with depth, and zero guru energy.

You can pull your free chart or grab your personalized guide right here 👇

👉www.theexperienceproject.net/humandesign

The Candlelight Takeaway 🕯️

As we slide toward 2026, I keep thinking—

maybe it’s not about manifesting some perfect new life.

Maybe it’s about refusing to keep saying yes to the one that’s no longer aligned.

So if you’re also feeling like your soul hit the eject button on “pretend everything’s fine” —

pull up a seat. You’re in good company.

Light your candle tonight.

Take a breath.

Ask your body what she’s been trying to tell you.

Because she’s been in conversation with God this whole time…

you just forgot how to listen.

🤍

Karen

http://www.theexperienceproject.net/humandesign